Monday, October 19, 2015

Beauty tips on the street - Explaining my wash and go to people

I sometimes get stopped on the street or in the bss (beauty supply store) by ladies asking for tips. They love my little spirals and want t know how they can do it themselves. I am really flattered when this happens.

I am so happy to share my tips.

Most people want to know how I achieve my wash and go (my staple style since day 1). People seem to love the little ringlets. They just love the little curls locked in by gel. They want to know how to do this.

My short answer is with gel. I know definitely that without gel my curls do not form and stay in place and I get major frizz. My wash and go can last a week if I re-wet it a couple of times in the week and lightly spray it with my water bottle on the other days.

Today, the lady I talked to was so sweet. At first, I felt a little uncomfortable because she was really staring at me. It looked like she wanted to say something to me but was hesitating. Then she asked... I gave her my routine. She really appreciated my advice. She was really sweet.

I wonder though...

I've given advice to strangers many times but I'm not sure how they apply the information I give them.

My brothers and my husband told me I should refer them to my You Tube channel or my blog.

When I started my first hair journey, I was also intrigued by all the girls on You Tube and their hair and how they did what they did with it. Now, I feel like I got my PhD in hair care. I understand all the terminology, all the techniques. The only thing I have yet to master is: understanding how to take care of curly-kinky hair with the harsh winter of Canada and how to transmit all this knowledge I have to people who are not into You Tube and social media. 

People around me, in my real life, do not use proper hair practices for the most part. Most of them do not even believe what I do to my hair applies to them. They still comb their hair dry. Leave their hair to dry out. Use grease. Don’t have a proper routine and are really stuck in the old school ways of taking care of kinky hair.

My heart rejoices when I see another natural on the street. I always feel like going up to them and say: “Your hair is beautiful!”. I never have the courage to do this in person but here I am and I am saying it: “Hello natural, you’re hair is beautiful!”

I also like beautiful relaxed hair but my heart belongs to natural hair for the time being and forever I'm sure. And when I see relaxed girls with hair in bad shape, I feel like telling them: “come on over to the other side, you won't regret it.”

It’s a big decision, I know. It took me 10 years to make it and stick to it.

I heard people say the natural hair blogger/vlogger topic is saturated, but I really don’t think it is.

We are now starting to see media in the main stream mention the strides the movement has been making since 2009. But mainstream consumers are not following suit. We still have some work to do. Natural hair products are selling well but they are not yet accessible in mainstream stores like Walmart and local drugstores.

We have more work to do to put the word out there. I want to be a part of that.

We are not there yet…

Friday, October 16, 2015

Rediscovering myself


Going natural has been an interesting experience so far. People ask me:"How did it feel to cut off my hair?" To be honest, I didn't agonize about it at all.  It was my second try at going natural, for one.  I already had an idea of what I would look like.

The first time I tried was in 2004, almost exactly 10 years earlier.  There wasn't as much information out there and not many people were doing it back then so I relaxed again after 2 years.

So in March 2014, when I decided to big chop for the second time, the way I would look played no part in my thought process.  I mainly questioned myself about my relaxed hair journey. Was I giving up? Was it time to call it quits.  I was really unsure about that mainly. I did not want to quit.

But indeed, a journey of 5 years is long enough.  I learned everything I could learn about keeping relaxed hair healthy, it was time to try something new. So, once I decided that I wasn't giving up on the other journey but simply evolving as a person, the decision to big chop was fairly easy to make.

I told my husband who was very excited (I had been talking about it for a while), called my stylist to book an appointment and that was it.  I loved the results right away and knew that this journey would bring me joy and fulfilment.

The other statement I get is:"Short hair is not for everyone..."  That may be true, but not because it won't suit you. It's really only because some people just don't want to accept it as a suitable style for them. Only a matter of taste.

I honestly wonder... You would never say that about boys. He can't wear his hair short, it won't suit him.  And before anyone says anything, having short hair does not make you look like a boy.

Anyone can do anything with their hair. Society has decided that man are more acceptable with short hair and women with longer hair. It's confidence...

I'm an average woman. I was insecure as a pre-teen and as an adolescent. My confidence grew as I aged and realize we are all in the same boat, all have the same struggles and we all want to be loved and accepted.

So as a young women, I started caring less and less what people thought of me and more about myself. Not to say that I am all about the me, myself and I... Not at all. I care what my husband and my parents and close family think of me. And for the life of me, I still feel like I have to please people. I don't like to hurt people's feelings. But when it comes to my look, I really don't ask myself what people think.

So, when going natural, the most important is to think of yourself only. The good reasons to do it:

  • health
  • discovery
  • knowledge
I encourage you! Everyone can be natural...

:)